When big stuff happens, or when change is afoot, it's easy for your normal sense of comfort around who you are and what you are good at, to be put under a *bit* of strain.
Let's just say it's not as easy as it used to be to feel confident.
That's because anything new, and as yet unknown, basically leaves you with zero trustworthy evidence around how it's all going to play out...could be great...could be a disaster. How do you know if you have never done it before?
So we default to what we DO know, which is either based on past experience (which is undoubtably a mixed bag of successes and failures) OR, it's based on other people's experiences (again, a pretty unreliable source).
Self trust comes up with virtually ALL my clients, that's not surprising given what I do of course, not many people come to me when everything is fine and dandy! But that means I end up working with them on this A LOT! Plus, I've been doing this work for 22 years so it's easy to see patterns. Usually it looks something like this:
They might have lost trust in their ability or confidence after a promotion or getting a new role (they lose trust in the idea that they are 'good enough').
Or after a major relationship changes or breaks down (they question if they can trust their worth and judgement). Very often, mothers work with me because after having a baby they lose their identity as it was before, their values change and they want to understand how to discover who they are again now.
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Ben knew that some of the relationships at work weren't working, but he wasn't sure what to do next or how to ensure that everyone felt heard. We worked together to find strategies for communication that solved the issues and ultimately transformed company culture.
Amit understood that something was holding him back, people listened to him but then didn't seem to follow through on action. We got to the heart of the problem quickly and with a few honest conversations and tweaks to communication, output increased hugely.
Farah was a highly ambitious leader when I met her but had turned down a C-Suite role. We worked together to help her understand what was important to her and the impact she wanted to make as a leader. Farah is now having a huge influence across the company as Chief People Officer.
When Amy started working with me she was already doing really well but she lacked confidence in her ability to be seen and heard as the authority that she was. Whilst working together Amy was headhunted by 4 global companies and is now Director of Communications for a Global business. .