When big stuff happens, or when change is afoot, it's easy for your normal sense of comfort around who you are and what you are good at, to be put under a *bit* of strain.
Let's just say it's not as easy as it used to be to feel confident.
That's because anything new, and as yet unknown, basically leaves you with zero trustworthy evidence around how it's all going to play out...could be great...could be a disaster. How do you know if you have never done it before?
So we default to what we DO know, which is either based on past experience (which is undoubtably a mixed bag of successes and failures) OR, it's based on other people's experiences (again, a pretty unreliable source).
Self trust comes up with virtually ALL my clients, that's not surprising given what I do of course, not many people come to me when everything is fine and dandy! But that means I end up working with them on this A LOT! Plus, I've been doing this work for 22 years so it's easy to see patterns. Usually it looks something like this:
They might have lost trust in their ability or confidence after a promotion or getting a new role (they lose trust in the idea that they are 'good enough').
Or after a major relationship changes or breaks down (they question if they can trust their worth and judgement). Very often, mothers work with me because after having a baby they lose their identity as it was before, their values change and they want to understand how to discover who they are again now.
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